Why am i attracted to younger guys gay

By continuing to use our site, you agree to our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Our advice columnist, Adam Blum of San Francisco's Gay Therapy Center, on the conflict over desire and personal objectives. I've always been attracted to younger men. Now that I am in my 50s, I'm mostly attracted to men in their 20s.

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I find older gentlemen, first of all, incredibly attractive and there is a spark about their wisdom I find magnetic. Career, goals, and physical appearance set aside: Why is a man about a decade older than me more than willing to wine and dine my peers and me? Is there something wrong with the older generation of the gay community? I have a collective group of friends, most of whom are also attracted to older men.

I hook up with a lot of young guys who like older men, but they all just want to party and have fun. I was the same way when I was their age, but I really want to settle down and find a partner. Most of the therapists I know would probably encourage you to work toward acceptance of your sexuality as it is and focus on how to make it work for you, rather than try to change it. I know a number of couples who have been together for some years, with age differences ranging from 19 to 25 years, and as far as I can tell, these relationships are doing well.